It's a mystery why we fall in love. It's a mystery how it happens. It's a mystery when it comes. It's a mystery why some love grow and it's a mystery why some love fail. You can analyse this mystery and look for reasons and causes ,but you can never do any more that takes the life out of the experience.
Just as life itself is more than the sum of bones and the muscles and electrical impulse in the body, love is more than the sum of interest and the the attraction that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and go in it's own time, so too the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that can't be question in it's own way. Hopefully, at least once in your life, the gift of love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty.
This is the dream we all share. More often, it comes and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment then move on. When this happen to young people, they too try to grasp it and hold it to themselves refusing to that it is a gift and just as freely, can move away. When their love falls apart or the person they love feels the spirit of love is leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting it for what it is and move on. They want answers to questions they've already got answers to. They want to know what is wrong with them that makes the other person no longer love them, and/or try to get the situation change, thinking that if something is done differently, love will bloom again. They blame their circumstances. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept it's own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery. You need to know this about love and accept it. Accept what it brings with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someone who doesn't love you, be gentle with yourself. There's nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to live in the other person's heart. If you find out that someone is in love with you, know that love has come to call at your door. But don't unnecessarily accept when you know you can't give it back. Don't take advantage, don't cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with yourself.
All our hearts feel the same pain and joy even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with someone and he/she fall in love with you, and love chose to leave, do not put blame, just let it go. There's a reason and there's a meaning. You'll know in time. Remember, you don't choose love, love chooses .All you can really do is to accept it when it comes and reach out and give it away, give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to the world around you, in any way you can.
Situations where many lovers go wrong is that, having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their heart as an empty place that will be filled with love, and begins to see love as something that flows to them rather than from them. They ceased to be someone who generates love, instead, becomes someone who seeks love. They forget that the secrete of love is that, it can only be made to grow by giving it away .
Remember this and keep it to your heart; the gift of love has it's own season and reason for coming, you can't bribe it or force it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it out when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or the heart of your lover, there's nothing you can do, and there nothing you should do. Love always has been and will always be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you can keep your heart open, it will come again.
